One of the most common questions I get asked is:
“How can I be amazing in bed?”

So many people think the answer lies in a list of techniques – teach me how to do a blowjob, how to ride, how to handle… And yes, all of these skills are useful. However, the truth is that being amazing in bed is so much more than following a recipe.

Pleasure is not about “press here, do this, turn like that.” It’s an art. It’s about being present, feeling, listening to your body, and responding in the moment.

When I’m with my husband, Mr. E, I’m not going into sex thinking: First, I’ll ride him like this. Then, I’ll twist like that. No. I’m listening to my body: What do we want right now? How do I want to be touched? And because I practice listening to my body, my pussy, my pleasure, I’m also able to listen to his. That’s when sex shifts from just being about techniques into a full-bodied, connected, playful experience.

And that’s really the secret.
Are you touching, or are you feeling?
Are you performing, or are you present?
Are you following steps, or are you listening to your body?

Being amazing in bed is not about perfecting moves; it’s about presence, intuition, and openness to pleasure – yours and your partner’s.

Pleasure is inexhaustible when you know how to enjoy it

Want to hear the full episode (and some juicy personal stories I shared)?
🎧 Listen to Episode 2 of Love Notes with O.E. on Spotify 👉 How to be amazing in bed.

Olawunmiesan is one of Africa’s renowned sex therapists who helps individuals and couples improve intimacy and enjoy sexual pleasure, connection, and fulfillment.

To learn more about her works, visit: www.olawunmiesan.com