One of the most common questions I get asked is:
“How can I be amazing in bed?”
So many people think the answer lies in a list of techniques – teach me how to do a blowjob, how to ride, how to handle… And yes, all of these skills are useful. However, the truth is that being amazing in bed is so much more than following a recipe.
Pleasure is not about “press here, do this, turn like that.” It’s an art. It’s about being present, feeling, listening to your body, and responding in the moment.
When I’m with my husband, Mr. E, I’m not going into sex thinking: First, I’ll ride him like this. Then, I’ll twist like that. No. I’m listening to my body: What do we want right now? How do I want to be touched? And because I practice listening to my body, my pussy, my pleasure, I’m also able to listen to his. That’s when sex shifts from just being about techniques into a full-bodied, connected, playful experience.
And that’s really the secret.
Are you touching, or are you feeling?
Are you performing, or are you present?
Are you following the steps, or are you listening to your body?
Being amazing in bed is not about perfecting moves; it’s about presence, intuition, and openness to pleasure – yours and your partner’s.
Ready to take it further?
If you want to explore your pleasure, awaken desire, and become a confident, expressive bedroom baddie, you have options:
1. Self-paced learning:
The Better Lover for Women course is designed to help you:
- Tune into your body and desires
- Communicate confidently with your partner
- Explore new ways to enjoy intimacy
- Become more playful, creative, and expressive in bed
2. Private 1-1 coaching:
For personalized guidance, private coaching helps you:
- Build sexual confidence and presence
- Learn how to initiate and ask for what you want
- Improve your libido and satisfaction
- Transform hesitation into full-bodied pleasure
Whether you choose a self-paced course or private coaching, the key is taking action to move from performing to truly feeling.
Learn more about the Better Lover for Women course HERE
Or book your private 1-on-1 coaching session HERE
Pleasure is inexhaustible when you know how to enjoy it
Want to hear the full episode (and some juicy personal stories I shared)?
🎧 Listen to Episode 2 of Love Notes with O.E. on Spotify 👉 How to be amazing in bed.
Olawunmiesan is one of Africa’s renowned sex therapists who helps individuals and couples improve intimacy and enjoy sexual pleasure, connection, and fulfillment.
To learn more about her works, visit: www.olawunmiesan.com
