When people think of a woman who is “confident in the bedroom,” they often picture someone who knows all the moves: how to ride, how to seduce, how to please her man. But from my years of work with women, I’ve discovered that the real reason many women lack confidence is much deeper.
In Episode 4 of my podcast, Love Notes with O.E., I discussed a powerful concept I call “sexual chameleoning.”
Here’s what I mean:
- Many women unconsciously adapt their sexual expression to match the man they’re with.
- If he’s passionate, they turn up the heat. If he’s cold or closed off, they shrink back, too.
- Over time, this constant adapting makes women lose touch with who they truly are sexually.
The result? Instead of having a stable sexual identity, many women find themselves constantly shifting, which leaves them unsure of who they really are sexually. And how can you be confident in something you don’t fully know?
In this episode, I break down:
- Why sexual self-awareness is the foundation of confidence.
- How “sexual chameleoning” holds women back from pleasure.
- Practical ways to begin discovering and embracing your sexual persona.
🎧 Listen to the full podcast episode here: Why Many Women Struggle With Bedroom Confidence
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Your confidence doesn’t start with how you move in the bedroom; it starts with knowing who you are before you get there.
Olawunmiesan is one of Africa’s renowned sex therapists who helps individuals and couples improve intimacy and enjoy sexual pleasure, connection, and fulfillment.
To learn more about her works, visit: www.olawunmiesan.com