One of the common questions we get from women is, “I don’t enjoy penetration, what do I do?” Research has told us that most women enjoy clitoral stimulation, but it’s important to note that pleasure from penetration is highly possible.
However, if a woman has not consistently enjoyed penetration, she might start to mentally switch off when penetration is happening or about to happen, which only exacerbates the issue. Once you detach, you are already blocking any pleasure that can come from the experience, making everything worse.
Reasons You May Not Be Enjoying Penetration
1. Insufficient Lubrication
Without enough lubrication, penetration can be uncomfortable or even painful. Lubrication reduces friction and enhances comfort, making the experience more enjoyable. Ensure you are adequately aroused before attempting penetration, and consider using a water-based lubricant to help.
2. Your Body Has Not Reached the Point of Pleasurable Penetration
Your body needs time to become fully aroused and ready for penetration. Rushing into penetration before your body is prepared can lead to discomfort. Engage in ample foreplay to ensure your body is fully aroused and ready for penetration.
3. Painful Sex
Various factors, including medical conditions such as vaginismus, endometriosis, or infections can cause pain during sex. It’s crucial to address these issues with a healthcare professional. Painful sex can also be due to a lack of lubrication or inadequate arousal, both of which need attention.
4. Lack of Clitoral Stimulation
Many women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. If your partner focuses only on penetration and neglects clitoral stimulation, you may not find the experience satisfying. Communicate your needs to your partner and ensure that both types of stimulation are included.
How to Improve Your Penetration Experience
If you are a woman who does not enjoy penetration, here’s one way you can improve the experience:
Pair Penetration with Another Form of Stimulation
While penetration is happening, also incorporate stimulation that is pleasurable for you. This could include; Boob Play or Nipple Play, Clitoral Stimulation, and other stimulating activities that work for you.
Pairing penetration with another form of stimulation helps your brain associate penetration with pleasure because you are combining it with something that is already enjoyable. The more you engage in this process, the more open you become to experiencing pleasure from penetration.
Improving your penetration experience requires understanding your body and communicating your needs. If you are looking to enjoy more pleasure in your bedroom, explore our courses like “Better Lover for Men” and “Ride Like a Pro.” to learn more.
By addressing the reasons why penetration might not be pleasurable and actively working to enhance your experience, you can significantly improve your sexual satisfaction.