Sex is one of those things that tend to fall to the back of the priority list when kids come into the picture. It takes effort and creativity to reignite the passion in your relationship.
Honestly, if you are waiting for the most convenient time to rebuild intimacy, you’ll be waiting a long time.
Here are five tricks for turning up the heat even after kids.
1.Don’t bank on spontaneity. Bringing a calendar into your sex life might sound like a mood killer. But you can’t always depend on spontaneous sexual desire if you want to keep your intimate life going. Instead, take charge of this part of your marriage by scheduling sex. Contrary to what many people think, scheduling sex doesn’t take the fun out of it. If done right, It can help build excitement and even increase arousal in anticipation of the fun time ahead.
2. Work On It Together. If you’ve recently had a baby, keep in mind that due to hormonal changes and the rigours of caring for a new born, your post-baby sex drive might be naturally low. Be open with your partner if you feel uneasy or overwhelmed about getting intimate again. And make out a plan together to ease into sexual activities. Sensual exercises and open communication work great here.
3. Foreplay is important. I know what you’re thinking, “Who has time for foreplay when we are trying to have sex before the kids start pounding on our door?” But hey, it makes all the difference. Well, except you want the next few years of your life to be a quickie fest, you should prioritize foreplay.
Foreplay (I prefer to call it sex play) will help you become fully aroused, increase your sexual desire and help make intercourse more pleasurable. In actual fact, foreplay in itself is Sex and should not be seen only as a precursor to intercourse.
4. Change your Environment for Sex. Changing your environment as a temporary getaway from parental responsibility can help you relax. For instance, checking into a hotel away from home.
Hotel sex can be great because it could help take your mind off your usual activities and help you focus on enjoying intimacy with your partner.
5. Switch things up
Quickies can also be exciting whether you’re sneaking in a session during your kid’s nap time or trying other places like your car, the bathroom, the laundry room or even a quick one right there in your bed.
Trust me, you won’t always have the time to get the whole 9 yards of sexual intimacy, so quickies are also your friend!
So there, 5 things you can do to keep sex passionate even after kids.
Don’t just read this, try it!