Marriage

If you grew up in a Nigerian household like I did, chances are very high that when you got married, your parents or guardian warned you sternly never to divulge details of your marital life to third parties. I agree with them. However, this would have been a better piece of advice IF our parents […]

A while back, I got a pair of trainers to work out but I didn’t wear them for some time. Recently I started working out again and I wore the trainers. They were a perfect fit when I got them but I noticed now that when I wear them for a length of time, my

Today, I tried doing the laundry but for some reason, the washing machine refused to work. Its display screen showed a command that meant water was unable to flow into the machine via the pipes. I tried everything I knew to, but nothing worked and so I called the plumber. The plumber checked the pipes

A few days ago, in the process of cleaning out my ears with a cotton bud, I went in too deep and touched something that wasn’t meant to be touched. At first it felt uncomfortable but later, it became full blown pain. For 2 days, I tried suppressing the pain with Paracetamol because I didn’t

Shared values, shared beliefs…… speaking one language. Recently I was struck by the story of Babel and how God caused confusion between the people by changing their language. From the story, you could see that God knew that humans could achieve great things if they worked together. In order to thwart the vision the people

When a lot of us hear the word ‘intimacy’, we automatically conclude that it refers to sex and sex related acts. Well, that may not entirely be wrong, however intimacy is much more than sex. Intimacy when broken down simply means ‘Into -Me -See’. It means being able to see into and understand your spouse

While reading my bible today, I was fixated on the passage where Jesus said, ‘Let the little children come to me’ in Matthew19:14. Undoubtedly, we have heard this bible passage countless times but today, it had a new meaning for me. It dawned on me that Jesus was not referring to just that moment when

When I talk to singles planning to get married, one of the first things I ask is ‘What type of marriage do you envision for yourself?’ Based on their response, we then drill down to ‘What type of spouse do you need to make the vision a reality?’. We go further and the question becomes

Many couples today are in marriages that are tethering on the brink of divorce as a result of strict gender stereotyping. The African society from time immemorial has provided a laid down manual for man and wife to follow. It has been made clear to us over and again, even more so while growing up.

Girl: I see us having 2 kids, a house with a white picket fence, a Labrador and 2 luxury vehicles. My parents would visit during Easter, your parents would visit for Christmas but we should have both parents come around for Thanksgiving. I also think we should run a joint account for long term savings,