Sex is one way to build intimacy that helps establish and maintain a long-term relationship. However, it’s also important to regularly pay attention to creating and maintaining a connection with your partner outside the bedroom.
But where do you even begin? Don’t worry, this post isn’t about elaborate Pinterest-worthy dates (although those can be fun too!). These are 4 super practical ways to initiate romance outside the bedroom – things you can do with minimal effort.
1. Give affection to your partner in ways they find meaningful (not ways that you find meaningful).
Avoid the trap of showing affection in ways you prefer but they don’t. Couples commonly become disconnected when one partner gives the other what the giver wants instead of what the recipient needs. To effectively build intimacy, ask—and then do things for your partner that you know they like.
2. Incorporate “Mini-Dates” into your routine
Who says romance needs a reservation? You can create time for a quick coffee date in the morning before you go about your daily activities, grab a post-work happy hour drink, or enjoy some wine and watch a show or movie together before you retire for the night. These short, sweet outings break the routine and give you a chance to reconnect without a huge time commitment.
3. Love notes are still a thing.
Sometimes a handwritten note tucked into their lunchbox or left on the bathroom mirror can be very impactful. You don’t need sonnets or Shakespearean prose, just a simple “thinking of you” or a hilarious inside joke can work wonders.
You can even take it a step further and leave a series of “treasure hunt” notes that lead them to a small surprise – a favorite candy bar, a new book, or even a silly love poem!
4. The Everyday Acts of Kindness.
Romance isn’t always about grand gestures. Sometimes, the most impactful things are the little acts of kindness woven into your daily routine. Make them their favorite morning coffee, offer to help with a chore they hate, or give them a back rub after a long day. These small gestures show that you care about them and their well-being.
Bonus Tip: Be present in the moment! Put down your phone, listen actively when they talk, and offer a helping hand without being asked. These seemingly small things speak volumes about your love and respect for your partner.
Remember, romance isn’t a competition or a chore. It’s about nurturing your connection and having fun together. Put these tips into practice, add your personal touch, and watch the love in your relationship blossom even brighter!