Oral Sex 102

In my last post on oral sex, I had you practice lip confidence and get used to some of the basic oral sex techniques.

This time, let’s get to the real thing.

First things first – prep yourself. Feel sexy. Do your lip confidence practice and settle into that energy of confidence. Your husband wants to feel that you are genuinely interested in giving him head, so don’t approach it like a chore. Let your body language communicate desire.

Start by kissing him to signal that you have sex on your mind.

Kiss his lips slowly. Kiss his earlobes. Suck gently on his bottom lip. Then begin your descent south. Use both your hands and mouth to trail along his body — his neck, his nipples, his chest, his navel — until you get to his penis.

But don’t go straight for it.

Tease him a little first.

Kiss his inner thighs, which is a sensual area many people overlook. Run your tongue lightly around the area as well. By now his penis will be hard and practically trying to locate your mouth.

Still… don’t go for it yet.

Go for the balls first.

(Important note: make sure your husband actually enjoys stimulation there, because not every man can tolerate contact with his balls.)

It helps if your hands are lubricated, but make sure you use a lubricant that is safe for ingestion. Use your hands to lightly massage his balls — emphasis on lightly, and then introduce your lips.

Lick and suck on his balls gently.

At this point, you’ve built enough anticipation that his penis is practically begging to be taken.

Now go for it.

Make sure your mouth is wet enough to glide over his penis without friction. Go to the top and take as much of his penis into your mouth as you comfortably can. (If you can’t take it all, that’s completely fine.)

As you move back up his penis, tighten your lips around it to create a firm sucking motion. Do this a couple of times and then take his penis out of your mouth.

Remember those open-mouthed kisses you practiced with the banana?

Now apply them here.

Start from the base of his penis, but don’t go all the way to the head yet. Use open-mouthed kisses up the shaft, teasing him as you go.

Then change the motion.

Lick his penis the way you would lick an ice cream cone. Use firm strokes upward, go back to the base, and repeat the strokes.

When you get to his frenulum (the ridge that connects the shaft to the head of the penis), lighten the pressure of your tongue and lick the area gently. The frenulum is very sensitive, so teasing it lightly with your tongue can feel incredibly pleasurable.

After teasing the area, change the motion again by taking him back into your mouth.

Also remember that giving head doesn’t have to be restricted to your mouth alone.

You can use your fingers to firmly circle the base of his penis and support your up-and-down strokes. This is especially helpful if you cannot deep throat fully.

Now try a different sensation.

Instead of just moving your mouth up and down, introduce a corkscrew motion. Turn your head slightly as you move to create a twisting sensation around his penis.

And yes… some light moaning helps as well.

The vibrations created by moaning can add another pleasurable sensation for him.

As you continue, stay a little longer near the head of his penis. Lick the head, alternate between light sucking and firmer sucking, and use swirling motions with your tongue to stimulate it.

Keep alternating the different motions while supporting your movements with your hands. Switch between slow, sensual strokes and faster movements to keep the sensations varied.

Pay attention to his body as well.

Watch his balls. If they become tight and lifted like ripe peaches, it’s often a sign that he’s getting close to orgasm.

At that point, you can decide how you want the moment to end.

You can finish him off with your mouth… or you can change things up and guide him inside you, riding him until he releases.

And that’s it.

That wasn’t so bad, was it?

Giving head is a lot like learning how to drive. Someone may teach you the basics at first, but over time you develop your own style, one that works beautifully for you and your partner.

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