Sexual appetite in simple words means one’s desire to engage in Sex…. your desire for Sex.
If you find you have little or no sexual appetite, here are a few tips you can try to improve your appetite.
1. Understand arousal and learn what turns you on.
For some people, desire does not occur spontaneously. Such people may find that they respond to arousal stimulus as opposed to having a spontaneous desire for sex and that’s absolutely fine.
Responsive sexual desire is real. However, you need to understand how to elicit sexual desire by understanding what arouses you.
Such people may find that they respond to direct touch, erotic reading, sexting, erotic build-up, etc. Find out what gets you going and start enjoying an improved sexual appetite.
2. Let go of performance anxiety.
Performance anxiety, pressure, and stress surrounding sex are likely to curb your sexual appetite.
The pressure is the antithesis to pleasure, so if you feel pressure to have sex in a certain way, look a certain way, have an orgasm, get hard, get wet, make specific sounds or want sex with a specific frequency, you may find that the pressure to achieve all those things may distract you from enjoying sexual pleasure. Sexual pleasure is less about following a rule book and more about enjoying sensations, tuning in and letting go of inhibitions and pressure.
3. Address unresolved relationship issues.
When you experience issues with your partner, it’s likely those problems will spill over into the bedroom and leave you less likely to want sex.
If you’re harboring resentment, dealing with a partner who doesn’t want to engage in constructive resolution, struggling with ongoing conflict, recovering from hurt and trauma, it’s unlikely that you’ll want sex.
It’s best to work on these issues with your partner rather than sweep them under the rug and hope they go away.
4. Reduce stress levels.
Stress can cause various physical symptoms including a low sexual appetite. Your level of cortisol commonly referred to as the stress hormone – rise when you’re stressed out, and this can interfere with sexual desire.
Learn how to manage stress. Don’t shy away from getting support from your partner, family members you trust, hired help, or even a therapist if you need therapy. You can also try stress-relieving activities, such as meditation or exercise.
5. Get enough sleep.
Sleep affects many aspects of your health and behavior, including your sex drive. People with a hectic lifestyle usually don’t get the right amount of sleep.
Boost your energy and improve your sex appetite by taking naps when you can. And if you can’t take naps, be sure to get a full night’s sleep.
Don’t believe the fad, sleep is not for the weak. Sleep is essential to your optimal daily functioning and sexual wellbeing.
6. Check Your Hormones.
Your hormones play a significant role in your sexual appetite. If your sex hormones, testosterone, progesterone, and estrogen levels are low, it’s highly likely that your sexual appetite will be non-existent and sex may not be pleasurable for you.
So get your hormones checked!
7. Consult a therapist.
Talking to a general Therapist or Sex therapist can help you deal with underlying psychological issues that may influence your desire for sex.
Issues such as shame surrounding sex, body image, or trauma can have negative effects on your desire to engage in sex. If this applies to you, send an email to info@olawunmiesan.com to book a session with me.
8. Eat healthy and exercise often.
Following a heart-healthy diet could help you turn up the heat between the sheets. Improve your diet by loading up on fruits and veggies.
Improve your overall health by making exercise part of your daily routine. Get that body moving!
9. Add a little spice to your sex life.
Sexual monotony can be a drag, so try something new now and again to spice things up. Try a different sexual position, a different time of day, or a different location for sex.
Ask your partner to spend more time on foreplay. If you and your partner are open to experimenting, sex toys can help switch things up.
10. Schedule date nights.
Your dates don’t need to be over the top if you can’t accommodate that. Simply going to the movies or out to dinner can reignite the spark you felt when you first met and improve your sexual appetite.
So there you have it, 10 ways to help you improve your sexual appetite and the best part is, you can start working on it right away!