A while back, I was overwhelmed with so much going on in my life. I needed to take a break, I desperately needed a clean break from one of the major things I do.
I felt like I couldn’t take it anymore, how much could one individual shoulder anyway?
However, the reality was clear, it wasn’t time to make that clean break.
I was stuck with it, for the time being at least. The fact that I couldn’t do anything about it at the time felt so debilitating. I felt helpless and there was no way out. I felt like I was being consumed.
I decided to share my feelings and although I still couldn’t make the clean break, the words of encouragement I received helped me to hold on to the hope that there was light at the end of the tunnel (Did I mention that I cried? Yes, it was that serious).
Marriage sometimes can be like this. There are times you feel like giving up and running away.
You feel like you have to be so many things to so many people at the same time that you lose your identity. You are not (your name), you are either ‘mummy, daddy, husband, wife, brother, sister etc.
You play so many roles that you get lost. You can’t seem to find that carefree, happy go lucky person you used to be.
At that point you feel desperately helpless, depression comes knocking at your door. You snap at your loved ones and it feels like you are barely hanging by a thread.
You look for the light at the end of the tunnel and you can’t find it because there seems to be no end in sight. It’s a vicious cycle, you are going to wake up the next day to the same thing.
When does it end or at least ease out? How long can you go on like this? How long can you bottle this up without exploding?
At this point, it is best to open up to your spouse. Share your problems, ask for help, explain how you feel, ask for that ‘me’ time that you need. Let someone else do the work for some time.
Many times we assume that our spouses should know our needs without us having to voice them. While every spouse should be sensitive to the plight of the husband/wife, no spouse is a mind reader.
It’s best to speak up.
If you cannot speak to your spouse, speak to someone who can lend a listening ear and who you trust to keep your conversation confidential.
At times, it takes another person’s view to help you clearly see the solution that has been staring you in the face all along.
TAKE ACTION today and SPEAK UP. Don’t wait till you get to the point of a major melt down.
The saying ‘A problem shared is a problem half solved’ is actually true. However, be sure you are sharing with the right person.
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